The number of weddings we’ve either attended or worked would have to be in the high 3 figures and we’ve learnt a few things along the way, about which we routinely get asked. So routinely, that it’s about time we shared the love around in the hope that maybe you will strike some gold in the ensuing words.

To lead off we thought we’d proclaim (in our opinion) the greatest wedding commandment of all: Be True To Yourselves.

When most people think of weddings, they think of things such as a great looking couple, long-overdue catch-ups with old friends, awkward & endearing speeches, but weddings are actually about a huge amount of people, stuff, emotions, and plans all crammed into a space of 16 hours.

You’ll find that there are ‘moments’ happening left, right, and centre throughout the day and­ most of them are far from immaculately styled or picturesque­ but you’ll treasure them as much (or even more) than the more planned aspects of the day. The best thing you can possibly do is to design a day where you’ll feel at home, where you’ll feel genuinely yourself, surrounded by the people who love you and know you best.

All of the ‘stuff’ of a wedding day (location, budget, venue, weather, details, styling, food, cars) is really just a framework for you to fill with yourselves and the people who’ve made you who you are, so don’t get too hung up on slavishly sticking to traditions or what other people/blogs/magazines/family members tell you a wedding day should be.

Rather, be 100% true to yourself and plan a day that you’ll genuinely love. You’ll find the stress melts away and you can’t wipe the smile off your face all day long.